Houses In The Queer Comunity.

Houses in the Queer community.  Are they as accepting as they seem?  I myself have been a part of two houses in the past and was even one of the founding members of one house.  I have noticed they have seemed to take the gay community by storm on the west coast this past year or so.  Formerly a majority east coast gays only, it has expanded all the way to Sacramento, San Francisco, Los Angeles, and even up to Seattle.

So I think almost everyone in the gay community knows what a house is but just to clarify if you haven't here is a loose definition. "A family unit of LGBT people, often comprised of individuals who have experienced some form of family rejection (including homelessness) or those that merely seek guidance and mentoring from more experienced LGBT people. Houses are usually led by a house mother or father and the kids of the house sometimes carry the last name of the house founder." 

So now that you know what it is, it generally sounds like a good idea right?  Well it is a great idea but most ideas all sound great in theory.  I have noticed that first of all in the house communities if you are not some sort of minority then they don't want you in their house.  Now this is not true for all houses but for a majority of them.  Second of all is that most of the house parents and other officers of the houses are still at an immature point in their life and are not fit to be helping out others going through hard times.  Third is that most houses require you to pay dues to be a part of the house and if you are going through issues and hardships would adding another financial obligation be prudent for helping out others?  I doubt it.

Now that I have pointed out the negative points I would like to say that is not true of all houses.  There are some upstanding houses in the community that do not have dues, that have been established by people who are truly devoted to helping the community and those in it and would like to make this world a better place.  These houses are few and far between and so it can take some time to find those.  What would my suggestions be to you?

1. Find a house on your own.  Don't join a house where they are recruiting.  That just means that they are in their beginning stages and don't offer much support at all and the leadership is very questionable.

2. Make sure that you research your house before you join it or even apply.  Check out youtube to see some of their battles and there will be a ton of comments.  Also most houses have a downelink page and a myspace page so search them out on there as well.

3. Make sure you make your decisions from your research, not from what a member of the house is telling you.  As humans we always speak greatly of things we are a part of.  It's part of our flawd design.

I hope that little bit of insight helped you guys today and don't forget to find me on Yuwie and watch some of the videos on our youtube bar for the latest GLBTQI videos out right now!  And also if you are looking into a good MATURE dating website check out some of the sponsers as well.  They are great alternatives to eHarmony.com and some others. 

New Feature and Next Entry!

Hey guys! Just a quick update!  Well tonight I'm going to be working on the next blog and it might be done tonight or it might be done tomorrow and it is going to be about Houses in the LGBTQI community. 

Also a new video feature!  I added a video bar on the side so if you want to check out some of the videos on there from different LGBTQI Themed channels!  I hope you guys like it and remember to send in suggestions for subjects or questions you want answered to askmrjamison@yahoo.com

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Josh

Brand New Blog

Welcome to my blog! My first entry is to explain a little bit about this blog and myself.  First of all my name is Josh and I decided to start this blog for a few reasons.  The first reason is ultimately outreach towards members of the LGBTQI community.  I have always been a person that my friends go to for advice and I have gone through alot in my 22 years of existance on this planet.  The second reason is I love writing and have always loved to write about my experiences and about others.  I feel that providing this blog for members of the LGBTQI community (And even our straight allies) will give an open forum and resource for members of all walks in the community.  In the Queer community we lack a unity between the Bisexual, Gay, Lesbian, Transgendered, Intersex, and Queer members.  We segregate ourselves by our own accord and one goal of this blog is to show that all of us have issues and that all of us are going through the same things on a daily basis.  We are all different but that difference is what makes us all the same.

Now a little bit about myself.  My name is Josh and I have a wonderful partner of 2 years and we are happily in a committed relationship.  I have been out for 7 years now, completed 2 1/2 years of college, managed a nationwide Real Estate company, volunteered at numerous LGBT clinics, outreach groups, educational groups, as well as safer sex education.  I have a passion for helping other people and love to make a difference in people's life.

Now onto the good part.  You know a little bit about me and why I created this blog and so now I am going to give you the email address for any questions you may have.  I am going to commit to answer the questions posed daily (M-F and most weekends).  Remember all subjects are accepted and no question will go unanswered.  Thank you for your support and feel free to visit some of our sponsors!

-Josh