Gay Resources

Hey there guys! Apologies for my not writing yesterday.  I was just so busy that I fell behind!  What I wanted to give you guys were a few links to some different gay networking sites where you can meet and chat with other people that identify with you.

Manhunt -The first one here is Manhunt.   It is mainly a hook up site but it does allow you to chat with people and meet guys from all walks of life.  Not exactly my favorite website but it does have it's advantages.

Adam4Adam- Secondly I have Adam4Adam here.  I think that Adam4Adam is one of the better websites for gay males.  It is based around hooking up but you will find a lot of really amazing people here to chat with and a lot of people looking for strictly Platonic relationships with friends.  Although if group sex, kinks, misc. fetishes, or dates are what you are looking for this site has it all.  Although there is not a gender option for this site it seems to be moderately trans friendly for the Trans-Guys'.  I would like to note for both this site and Manhunt to always engage in safe sex if you do choose to have casual sex with members on this website.  Remember that although you may be truthful about your HIV Status not everyone else is and there are other things out there besides just HIV.  Remember to wrap it up and play safe guys!

Downelink- Downelink which is now partnered with LOGO is like a gay myspace.  It has come a long way from when it first came out.  The home page will show the first few Missed Connections posted which is generally a bulletin board but from time to time you will see a missed connection from someone in your home city.  They also show the most recent blogs, a friends bulletin however they have no friend ordering feature.  They are in order from newest to oldest friends.  And although it is imitating myspace they have no built in music player as of now but they do have a videos section and they post video links on your home page so you can view some of the hottest videos out from LOGO!

Butch-Femme- This is simply put a real life community for the Lesbian Butch-femme community.  Although I am not a lesbian myself some of my dearest friends are and I hear them talk about this website all the time and it has articles, chats, forums, and is a normal online community.  If you are a Lesbian or Trans-Girl I would highly recommend checking out a membership on this page.

Planet Out - The parent company to Gay.com and a multitude of other smaller gay themed websites.  To me planet out is over done and in it's final stages of life.  They DO have some good articles on there however lack much sustenance to keep you entertained.  I would suggest going to gay.com to chat and meet with people.

Gay.com- Gay.com is a great chat website.  They have some gripping articles and are constantly updating their site.  Their personals are alright but leave a lot to be desired.  They recently updated their chat codes so you can only use their JAVA chat via their website and you are only allowed one chat room at a time for the free memberships.  You have your own name@gay.com email address when you sign up and you have unlimited chat time (as long as it's in one room) and an unlimited amount of private messages.  You can have a photo gallery but you can only view the primary picture if you don't pay for the membership (so keep in mind to put your best picture first)  All in all this is a good website but watch out because it can suck you in.

D-List- Another "Gay Myspace" website.  They have a featured members section which always has a lot of hotties on it for you to meet.  They have an "I'm interested" button if you don't quite know what to say but you wanna say "Hi".  You can build a profile, put music on it, post your own videos and it allows public and private videos.  All in all it's a good website that is easy to navigate.

XY- A community with personals and news and music.  Not the best site in the world but I would recommend it for people in High School or maybe first year of College.  Cool people on the site and over all I'd recommend checking it out!  Starting paid memberships soon though!

Mogenic- A Gay resource site for gay teens.  You can chat, make profiles, meet people, and ask questions (although I personally think you should ask them here) but it is a good site for people just coming out or that are not out yet.   It has alot of stories on there and is a place you can express yourself. 

First Question - Relationship Compromises?

Dear Mr Jamison:

I love my boyfriend and we have been together 3 months and I love him to death but sometimes I feel like he doesn't pay me enough attention.  Does he love me?  How can I tell?

"Well I must say that I have definitely been in your position before.  First of all you have to realize that there are two different types of people.  The first kind will sneak around to get what they want.  The second kind will get rid of something if they don't want it anymore.  They are up front about everything.

You need to ask yourself from a non-biased opinion if you think he truly loves you.  Maybe try just bluntly asking him if he is happy with you and wants to be with you.  Generally that will get you a relatively honest answer but you also have to prepare yourself for an answer either way it may go.  Never go in expecting anything because you can project your feelings and expectations on them.  I know in my relationship I have often felt unloved or unappreciated but then I realized that if he didn't want to be with me then he wouldn't be here right now.  A lot of it is in your head.

Another thing I would like to say is make sure you make the decision on your own.  Although it can be a good thing to go to your friends for advice be aware of how often you go to them and the picture you are painting over all.  Make sure you give an even picture of the good and the bad, not just the ones that are overcoming you right now.

I hope this little bit helps you out!  And email me and let me know how things go for you!

Mr. Jamison

Disclaimer

I also want to put a quick disclaimer on here.  Any advice given is not professional advice.  It is advice given through the experiences that myself or those I confide in have shared with me.  Anyone associated with this blog may not be held responsible for any damages or liabilities incurred in relations to adivice given.  Advice is merely an opinion.

Brand New Blog

Welcome to my blog! My first entry is to explain a little bit about this blog and myself.  First of all my name is Josh and I decided to start this blog for a few reasons.  The first reason is ultimately outreach towards members of the LGBTQI community.  I have always been a person that my friends go to for advice and I have gone through alot in my 22 years of existance on this planet.  The second reason is I love writing and have always loved to write about my experiences and about others.  I feel that providing this blog for members of the LGBTQI community (And even our straight allies) will give an open forum and resource for members of all walks in the community.  In the Queer community we lack a unity between the Bisexual, Gay, Lesbian, Transgendered, Intersex, and Queer members.  We segregate ourselves by our own accord and one goal of this blog is to show that all of us have issues and that all of us are going through the same things on a daily basis.  We are all different but that difference is what makes us all the same.

Now a little bit about myself.  My name is Josh and I have a wonderful partner of 2 years and we are happily in a committed relationship.  I have been out for 7 years now, completed 2 1/2 years of college, managed a nationwide Real Estate company, volunteered at numerous LGBT clinics, outreach groups, educational groups, as well as safer sex education.  I have a passion for helping other people and love to make a difference in people's life.

Now onto the good part.  You know a little bit about me and why I created this blog and so now I am going to give you the email address for any questions you may have.  I am going to commit to answer the questions posed daily (M-F and most weekends).  Remember all subjects are accepted and no question will go unanswered.  Thank you for your support and feel free to visit some of our sponsors!

-Josh