So I think almost everyone in the gay community knows what a house is but just to clarify if you haven't here is a loose definition. "A family unit of LGBT people, often comprised of individuals who have experienced some form of family rejection (including homelessness) or those that merely seek guidance and mentoring from more experienced LGBT people. Houses are usually led by a house mother or father and the kids of the house sometimes carry the last name of the house founder."
So now that you know what it is, it generally sounds like a good idea right? Well it is a great idea but most ideas all sound great in theory. I have noticed that first of all in the house communities if you are not some sort of minority then they don't want you in their house. Now this is not true for all houses but for a majority of them. Second of all is that most of the house parents and other officers of the houses are still at an immature point in their life and are not fit to be helping out others going through hard times. Third is that most houses require you to pay dues to be a part of the house and if you are going through issues and hardships would adding another financial obligation be prudent for helping out others? I doubt it.
Now that I have pointed out the negative points I would like to say that is not true of all houses. There are some upstanding houses in the community that do not have dues, that have been established by people who are truly devoted to helping the community and those in it and would like to make this world a better place. These houses are few and far between and so it can take some time to find those. What would my suggestions be to you?
1. Find a house on your own. Don't join a house where they are recruiting. That just means that they are in their beginning stages and don't offer much support at all and the leadership is very questionable.
2. Make sure that you research your house before you join it or even apply. Check out youtube to see some of their battles and there will be a ton of comments. Also most houses have a downelink page and a myspace page so search them out on there as well.
3. Make sure you make your decisions from your research, not from what a member of the house is telling you. As humans we always speak greatly of things we are a part of. It's part of our flawd design.
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